What is a Sub?
A sub is the opposite of a dominatrix. If you book a dominatrix for the evening, you will become the sub. However, if you are a person who likes total control, booking a sub may be the choice for you. These women will do everything that you tell them or want them to do. A sub is fairly open minded and will be open for almost everything that is suggested.
What are You Looking for?
One of the first things that you should ask yourself if you are thinking about booking a dominatrix or a sub is what exactly you are looking for. You can read descriptions about what a dominatrix is into. Try making a list of things that you are into and things that you want to try. Are you submissive? Do you enjoy watching a woman take total control? What have you seen on the internet that you are intrigued by?
Do you fantasize about a woman taking over and treating you like her property? Do you want to be restrained? Is there some type of fetish that you are into? All of these things should be listed when you are looking to book a dominatrix.
On the other hand, if you do not think that you can give over total control to a woman, booking a dominatrix might not be for you. Perhaps you want someone to listen to everything you say and do whatever you wish them to do. You might not want to be tied up, but would enjoy tying a woman up instead. If this is the case, booking a sub just might be the best choice for you.
Choosing your Sub or Dominatrix
Once you have a list of general ideas about what areas of BDSM that you want to explore, it is time to find the perfect sub or dominatrix to make your fantasies become a reality.
Most Dominatrixes will have a website that is extremely informative. Here you will find all of her interests and often photos and videos of her. Look for a dominatrix that is into the same things that you are looking to try. When you find a dominatrix that peaks your curiosity, it is time to contact her.
It is important to think about what you want to ask her in advance. Some things that you will want to find out are when she is available and where she works. You can tell her what you are into, but do not keep her on the phone forever or write her a book through email. Make sure that you are professional during these discussions.
The same thing goes for choosing a booking a sub. You will want to make sure that the sub that you choose is also into the same things that you want to explore. A good sub will meet all of the criteria that you are looking for, including the way that she looks. You already know what type of girl that you are into, so look for subs that meet those desires and who list interests that match yours.
What to Expect
Spending the evening with a dominatrix or a sub for the first time can be a bit nerve racking. If you have booked an evening with a dominatrix you need to make sure that you are early for your appointment. Do not cancel your appointment last minute. Make sure that you are truly ready to experiment before you book your session.
If you are booking a sub for the first time it is important to make sure that you are comfortable taking control and that you are ready and willing to be the dominant for the entire evening. Subs are willing to go the extra mile to make sure that you are pleased during the time that you are with them. You can take total control of the evening and maybe even learn some things about yourself along the way.
Overall, before booking a dominatrix or a sub you really need to examine yourself and understand what you want to explore. If you know that you can willingly and readily give up control and allow a woman to dominate you for an evening, a dominatrix can help you discover new things that you might be into.
However, if you are controlling and a dominant male and want a woman to do all of your bidding, booking a sub will be a good option as this will give you a chance to take over and find out exactly what you truly enjoy.